Grief Support

I can help if you are:

  • in any painful transition place
  • feeling stuck in your grief and wanting to recover your resilience
  • open to using your troubles as for fuel for transformation
  • grieving for someone/something ~ however long ago
  • craving support from someone who knows grief personally
  • desiring completion so that you can move on
  • wanting to explore the continuance of life after death
  • keen to open to the resources of your inner life


My grief experience

Having lived through the death by drowning of my first son, Benjaya, followed by two miscarriages and the deaths of several other loved ones, I have come to believe that the process of grief is akin to alchemy ~ defined as “The art of transmutation from base metal to gold”. I particularly resonate with the quote, “In order to test gold, you have to see it through the fire”. I have survived and emerged from this fire with an unshakable trust in grief as a transformative tool and a desire to help and witness others as they break through rather than break down. I personally embrace the bigger picture, what some call the spiritual dimension, in my life and work but share this only when appropriate. Writing two books focussed on healing from loss and grief and interviewing extraordinary people about how they healed through trauma has taught me a great deal.

When the towers of my world had come crashing down with the loss of both my child and a relationship, I was guided to find Carmella. She helped me to consciously rebuild my life and I am now blessed with a wonderful wife, and three amazing children! Thank you so much Carmella for gently guiding me to be the man I am now. Marcus Bawdon (Photographer, Devon, UK)

About Grief Support Sessions

I offer counselling support to anyone in transition, bereaved or bereft in any way. Grief has countless sources. Many are drawn to me who have ‘lost’ babies or children and I find these connections particularly poignant. Sessions are tailored to meet your needs and I draw on resources and experience gathered over 30 years of working with personal transformation, grief and relationship building. We will be together for an hour or an hour and a half. I will first listen compassionately to your story, then I might use my training in Bereavement Counselling (Cruse), Focusing or Neuro-Linguistic Programming, work with object or image symbology, facilitate an inner journey, offer inspirational stories, or, if you are local, lend books from my Phoenix Library. If something comes to me to say, I will say it. I believe that I am part of the team of two that is calling for resolution and, as such, I can be a conduit of insight to be shared.

In person or online

Sessions are available both in person at my home in Totnes, Devon UK and online on Zoom at the same cost. If you live locally, I recommend that we meet face to face, especially if you are in intense grief. If online, you will be asked to connect from a quiet room with no distractions, with tissues and perhaps a notebook/journal on hand.

I was initially apprehensive as to how long-distance counselling would work. I wondered if the physical distance might make it difficult to share important feelings and understandings. Not at all ~ it has been great and worked wonderfully. I can recommend it with no hesitation. Movement Therapist (Solihull, UK)

Phoenix Library

Solace (my counselling space) houses the Phoenix Library containing books on: resilience, recovery from grief and trauma, personal transformation, preparing for death, and life after death, which you are welcome to borrow. I also sell the books I have written, which offer a blueprint for healing from grief.

I live on the other side of the Atlantic to Carmella but when my mother died it was a Godsend to know that she was there with her care and wise words. She kept me sane through a horribly traumatic time. Janet Patti (University Professor, New York)

Cost and Timing

Payment is by sliding scale according to your means. You are asked to tune in to what you can honestly afford.

All first One-on-one sessions are £35 for 1.5 hours. This gives us a sense of spaciousness with less financial commitment to explore your challenges and whether we are moved to continue to work together.

Cost range for subsequent sessions:

£35 ~ £60 (1 hour)

£45 ~ £70 (1.5 hours)

Speak to me confidentially about what you can afford before the first session. The more generous you are able to be, the more this supports those who presently have less resources.

Payment is by cash at the end of each session or bank transfer (to be paid within 24 hours with an email letting me know that the payment has been done). PayPal can be used if outside the UK.


My preferred way to take bookings is by email: [email protected], but I am happy to arrange to have a short phone or Zoom conversation before booking if this would help you. I don’t usually work at weekends, unless there is an urgent need.

Cancellations/no shows

I ask you to value my time. Please let me know as far in advance as possible if you need to change your appointment. If you simply do not turn up for our session, you will be asked to pay the full agreed amount, so please remember to put the date in your diary/calendar as soon as it’s confirmed.

Book Links

  • Benjaya’s Gifts

      Benjaya’s Gifts is a captivating and intimate true story, which takes us on a journey into the heart of...

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  • Heart of Relating

      HEART OF RELATING enhances relationships by providing nitty-gritty answers to these three questions… and more: 1.  How do I recognise...

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