About Me

My native land ~ England ~ is still home, although I’ve travelled extensively. The rivers and stones of Devon are great friends of mine and one of my best forms of nourishment.

Since childhood, I have had an intense curiosity about what makes people tick and how I can live the best life possible… no matter what! Specific interests over the years have been: photography; holistic birth; aware parenting; finding resilience through loss; spirituality; writing; heartful relationships and conscious communication; inner life mentoring; learning how to be fully present; and honouring neuro-divergence.

In my twenties, in Virginia, USA, I completed a comprehensive teacher training course with a difference, which included: Effective Communication; Emotions Management; Inner Life work; Universal Law; and Dynamic Meditation. I later trained in: Bereavement Counselling; Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP); Focusing; Nonviolent Communication (NVC); and TRE (Tension and Trauma Release) body work… however, I consider LIFE itself ~ particularly birth and death ~ to be my greatest teachers.

In 1986, I became the first Midlands mother to give birth in water, which was reported worldwide in the Press due to a stunning picture taken seconds after our son, Benjaya, emerged. Ironically, our beautiful boy drowned in a local river when he was five. This was followed by two miscarriages… and finally, in 1993, thank goodness, our second son, Asher, was born safely… in water. Experiencing the harrowing losses taught me the importance of living from my inner strength.

In 2002, I joined the extraordinary team of The Inner Resilience Program (IRP) in New York City, facilitating retreats for educators. For 14 years we supported participants to connect with their inner lives and, in the earlier years, helped them to recover from the trauma of September 11th. My role was ‘Grief Consultant’.

In my life, I have co-founded a few ventures: MetaCentre: Foundation for Human Potential in 1984; BirthWorks in 1987, for holistic birth support and birthing pool hire; The Transitus Network in 2004, honouring the sacred process of living and dying and promoting death as a transition; and the Bowden House Community in 2005, an intentional eco-community in Totnes, Devon UK, where I still live and work. This is my playground for practising and learning new relating skills.

Presently my offerings to the world are: Grief Support and guiding people through transitions; TRE (Tension and Trauma Release) Sessions; Heartful Relationship Courses and Coaching; and my three published books ~ Benjaya’s Gifts, Mourning Has Broken, and Heart of Relating: Communication Beyond Ego.

My second son, Asher, is now working as a coach for young adults (Self in Centre Coaching) who are going through challenging times, supporting them living more into their gifts and creating nourishing and lasting change.